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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Majority of Americans are not this fit today in their childhood, youth, middle age like the woman below.   So to expect people to get this fit to avoid nursing home or being incapacitated is nonsense.

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So? There are several people who are elderly but are mobile and lucid.

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That's exactly my point. Becoming frail and incontinent is entirely preventable. But majority of Americans, even when they're capable, eat too much rubbish and don't take care of themselves. So of course they end up becoming like the elderly parents DCUMers hate on DCUM.[/quote]

This is outrageously idiotic. You are delusional if you think a diet that avoids "rubbish" can save you from getting ovarian cancer, like my mom, or Alzheimers, like my dad. Not everyone can or will be a 75yo body builder simply by virtue of a "clean" diet or some other nonsense on the internet.

The OP and some of you PPs are awful. I have first-hand experience with caring with people who have dementia or another long-term degenerative disease, and I can promise you that no one who has any means to find good care would keep a beloved family member in their home through the final stages. Unless you can find a way to never leave the house or leave the patient alone, you are setting yourself and your parent up for a tragic, awful death. Do you really think you can manage a non-mobile, incontinent, possibly violent or at least non-cooperative adult while also continuing to hold a job? Give me a break - I hope you are independently wealthy because that's not possible. What about your kids - do you want to go to their soccer games or volunteer at their schools? Sorry, not if you've got a person who's a risk to themselves and others at home alone. Unless you literally have buckets of money or multiple immediate family members prepared to give up their lives, in almost any case a person with advanced Alzheimers or another degenerative disease will receive better care in a high-quality skilled nursing facility.

I realize there are extremes at both ends of the spectrum, but the assumption that all skilled nursing facilities are inhumane and horrific is untrue and unfair. Many of us spent the holiday weekend visiting family in nursing homes - to read these kinds of uninformed, self-indulgent, moralizing posts from people who clearly don't know the first thing about caring for the elderly is like a slap in the face.[/quote]

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