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Behind according to what metric?  Future $$?  A prestigious career in the future?  A lot of us don’t care about that. Doesn’t mean kids like you describe are behind. [/quote]

In the UK, we call adult children doing nothing, NEETs for Not in Education, Employment or Training. You think idle kids like that are fine/average and self-sufficient children destined for success are mere overachievers? I'm confused by posts like yours. It's not 1965, there aren't any factory jobs to give idle unskilled young people a decent life. If you're not interested in college you better be ambitious in something, seek training somewhere. If you're just a layabout with flunky friends you're going to be a lifetime leech. [/quote]

For a bit of perspective:
My adult DD is very intelligent, but has ADHD. She wasn’t diagnosed until the summer before 9th grade so she didn’t get the accommodations that might have made it possible for her to do the AAP for MS and HS that you might have predicted from her ES performance and IQ. Instead, we let her do honors classes and sports. She did so many sports and was super social. She went to a decent college where she made HR and majored in the same field as her ES friends who did the AAPs. At graduation, all entered a tough job market for that field. Fast forward three years and she is one of only three kids from that ES peer group employed FT in that field and the only female. The rest are living at home working PT or they left the field that they prepared for from age 11. My DD doesn’t have the secondary school transcript full of promise, but she has amazing memories of middle and high school and still got the career she wanted. More than one way to skin a cat.[/quote]

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