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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]It amuses me that the invariable reaction to "older men, younger women" is "do you want to be his nurse?"

If the guy needs a nurse, why is it different if he is 15 years older than you versus the same age as you? Seems like it would be worse (more difficult) if you were the same age as him, because then you're old and tired, too.

I think the real message is that women want to discard a man once he is old and useless, regardless of any age difference.

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Is this really difficult for you to understand? Because most people, male or female, don’t want to spend the prime, youthful years of their life caretaking and unable to enjoy an active life with their spouse. [/quote]

Yes so hard for some men to see.  Why would a woman want to nurse a partner when she is 50 and still active.  She won't have a partner to travel with, go out with.  And after that she will then have health problems herself.

[b][It depends on how much care he needs. Is he totally bedridden? Or does he just need a little help here and there? And it also depends on their history together. Did they have 10, 15, or 20 active, enjoyable, loving years together before his health declined? If so, does he become disposable at that point? Or is the answer to "why would a woman want to do that" [i]because she's spent many years with him and loves him[/i]? How would you feel about a 40 year old man who ditched his wife of 15 years when he got breast cancer? Why would he want to nurse a woman when he's in his prime and active, eh?

Lastly, apropos of her having health problems in her old age, it is unclear to me why it is "better" to nurse a man of 65 when you're 65 yourself and have your own problems, versus when you are 50. It makes me think the real issue is not her age, but the fact that you don't think women should ever "nurse" men at all. ][/b]

You would hope that if you are the same age as each other that you would take care of each other, together rather than it just being worse for the woman because she is now old like the male and it's all on the woman to be the carer.  I mean you would hope that the man would do some caring if required for his wife if she needed it.

[b][You're not doing "apples to apples" here. In your previous scenario, the 65yo guy is so broken down that his 50yo wife has to nurse him. But here the 65yo guy has enough health and energy to help his 65yo wife. If the 65yo guy has enough health to take care of a 65yo wife then he has enough health to be a viable companion for a 50yo wife.][/b]

Ideally and not that it always works out like this, ideally it would be nice to retire together and be able to travel together, golf together, go out and  have hobbies and enjoy life a little before the limitations of old age creep in.  Then it would be nice to commiserate together about how getting old affects you.

[b][The good news for you, ladies, is that from my observation of assisted living facilities, you won't have to nurse an old man at all (or at least, not for long) because your husband is going to DIE. Those places are like 8 women per man. So it'll just be you and the girls playing bridge, which is so much better than nursing some old geezer husband, amirite?

As for me, my dad is 90 and is still traveling the world and enjoying retirement, so not every old man needs "nursing" as DCUM women obsessively believe for some reason.][/b]
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I'm a woman and I absolutely loved your rebuttal PP. I saw my own grandmother deteriorate in a nursing home and I'm working on minimizing chances that I will go the same way. I tell my husband how lucky he is that he was born male[/quote]

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