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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]This is an interesting discussion, I have been to a plantation wedding, and my own wedding was at a historic Inn way out in Faquier County.

I will say, I didn't choose the historic inn, it just sorta happened. Trying to plan a wedding that could accommodate 60 people and feed them on our budget, sent us at least an hour out from DC and excluded any modern hotel or venue in the area. Many of the more affordable options are old historic inns, and plantations- their packages are more affordable and still offer you a picturesque setting.

I did spend a lot of time researching the history of our venue, there wasn't clear information available but I assume the original owners must have kept slaves just because the time period.

So my question is, how do you feel about historic venues in general? It is bound to have the same dark history, as slaves were used to build so much of this country. Where do we draw the line- no weddings at venues that pre-date the civil war?[/quote]

I think it’s all in how it’s displayed.  A wedding in something designated a “plantation” is already going to triggering for lots of people (rightfully so).  A plantation with slave quarters, an all black serving company in costume, and an antebellum theme is totally tone deaf and IMO racist.  A wedding at a historic inn that probably had slaves at one time but has no reminders of them today-I would not be bothered, but I am white and am working on my privilege.  
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Not white myself (nor AA) but agree with most of this. Many historic places that can be rented for weddings and other events have a sordid history. If it's just a venue to rent, I can see why someone would choose it even if I most certainly would not (and did not). I would never blame a guest who declined on this basis either.

The Gone with the Wind or Old South touches/themes make it incredibly distasteful, insensitive, and racist. [/quote]

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