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[quote=Anonymous]Count me as another one that feels high school graduations are not obligatory for anyone except the immediate family of the graduate. And really, OP, have your son reflect on how happy he's going to feel to have Grandma there while knowing/wondering in the back of his head if there was something she's not saying, some reason she didn't want to come, and she's there because she feels emotionally blackmailed. He really wants her there under those circumstances? Because he'll always wonder.

My grandfather was on hospice and declining quickly just before my graduation from college. My mother was at his side with her siblings waiting for the end. She was torn on what to do. I told her that it was 100% fine with me if she did not come to my graduation, that I would never hold it against her, and that my dad and brother being there was enough and I totally understood if she skipped it. She came anyway, flying in the morning of commencement with plans to fly back to him the next morning. She watched me walk and then during our celebratory dinner she received a call that he had died. It's been 15 years and I still feel terrible that she wasn't there for her father's final moments because she was at my event, even though it was her choice. I really, really hope that nothing I said or did influenced her decision one way or another. But we can't go back in time. Graduation just isn't that big a deal in the grand scheme of things.[/quote]

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