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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]PP. I can’t believe all these responses! What is the deal with all your unreliable husbands, and why should OP just be content to go do things with her son by herself? My husband knows weekend mornings are family time. When my daughter goes down for a nap, that’s when my husband gets his time to do whatever he wants for the entire afternoon! Can OP’s husband not call his parents and go see his friend’s house during nap? Her husband sounds terrible! OP’s only problem seems to be that she posts on dcum about this instead of confronting her husband.[/quote]

I can’t speak for others but when I read OPs story I was perplexed.  As soon as she mentioned DH having to teach soccer for 2 hours and then go on a big family outing to the zoo, not close to their home, all while working around a toddlers nap time I thought that’s a lot of logistics that I personally wouldn’t want to deal with.  I’m coming from the standpoint of needing downtime when we aren’t running the kids to activities we’ve signed them up for or working. I’m not sure what the “family time” agreement is but I guarantee OP’s husband did not want to go to the zoo, even if he agreed and if it every really happens it will need to be a day nothing else is scheduled and they go first thing in the morning.  There were also inconsistencies like OP said toddler only naps when he goes out but Op doesn’t like to go out because she is tired with pregnancy (which I get) which makes me wonder about the initial plan of going to the Zoo which is tiring as all. Also why DH was terrible by saying he would drop them at the mall (after bailing on the zoo) which is not as tiring as the zoo but would be needed for the toddler to nap.

So I will say absolutely agree that the DH should call/communicate when plans change.  But the bottom line is it seems like the husband doesn’t want to do activities with the three of them outside the home.  As they say continuing to do the same things and expecting different results is the defining of insanity.  So I’m trying to suggest OP changes what she can control to improve the situation.  Wallowing, wishing for the husband she doesn’t have or being a martyr isn’t helpful to anyone much less a person with a toddler and another on the way.  The suggestions have been around having more independence around the car - either a 2nd car or the rule that the person with the kids has the car (awesome rule BTW) or finding ways to make sure OP gets downtime as well and that the dad still has time he spends with child even if it’s not the activities that OP would do.[/quote]

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