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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Ugh, that's a hot button issue for me. In my house it goes a little something like this:

Me, shouting from upstairs: "Hey Dave- there's a letter on the coffee table if you could grab it and mail it on your way to office, please."

DH: *silence*

Me, 15 seconds later: "Hey Dave, take that letter on the table to the mail box on your way to work, okay?"

DH: *exaggerated sigh* "I [i]HEARD[/i] you!"

Me: "Well then f'ing respond and I won't have to repeat myself!"[/quote]

Op here. Agggg. Yes!

I do note all the comments I’ve received that there might be a genuine hearing issue here or something like ADHD/autism going on. It’s not that I disagree. I think those could be factors.

At the same time, I read the example above, which has also happened to me and it’s very hard for me to see anything other than passive aggression.[/quote]

It is passive aggression rooted in frustration.
Your husbands are irritable from constantly being "on call" and could benefit immensely from some alone time away from the day-to-day grind of mundane correspondence and bothersome exchanges.
Plain and simply put the guys need a break.[/quote]

I hope you're joking.
But in case you're not - too bad. Every parent needs a break. But one parent doesn't get to take regular breaks at the expense of the other person. And this is an example of doing just that - punting the mental load to the other person. It's been pretty well documented, here and in studies, that women are unfairly burdened with the mental load of managing children and the household and very rarely get anything resembling a break. The fact that you think men are "on call" more than women is actually quite laughable. [/quote]

Yes.  And guess what - if he needs a break, then it is HIS RESPONSIBILITY to identify that and ASK for it.  Not just act like a sullen teenager so his wife will leave him alone (so he gets the break through passive aggression.)[/quote]

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