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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Okay sounds like opinions are split.  Just to clarify I am a doctor so capable of making a good salary. We are careful with money. I have encouraged him to consider a less stressful job.  I try to be supportive but at some point I don't get vthe point of being in a relationship with someone who can't spare 5 minutes at 830 at night to check in with family. 
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I'm a lawyer PP married to biglaw DH. You're not wrong, but also she is already in the relationship with that person. So ultimately the fundamental choice is to accept or split.

I also try to be supportive and remind DH that he can trade down to less stress and less money. This is kind of a specific issue to lawyers though, that there are not that many good non-biglaw jobs in this area. Smaller firms exist but can also be demanding, and for less money, and in-house is hard to get. Gov't doesn't pay well and can also be hard to get. People do it, obviously, but I think it's a difficult trade-off, especially if you are at all motivated by prestige. 
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It comes down to what is his motivation for working? Also maybe he will trade down to 40 hours in gov, but still hate the job, and be depressed he gave up golden ticket for ... THIS![/quote]

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