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They still might not want to move for whatever reason.  OP, demanding that teenagers move for you is not a way to get along with them.  And your choice of new home will be constrained by proximity to school, so you might not get a home you really like.  [/quote]

This is just a ridiculous position. Step kid again. If dad dates this woman for a few years and ends up marrying her they should absolutely move. I agree within the school district, so everyone compromises a little to get to the best situation for everyone in the family. This is how families work. Kids are in junior high so like 7th grade. OP is going to occasionally sleep in a house that gives her asthma attacks for five years, dating this guy but not really living with his family. That will not work.

I mean I get that it is difficult to move kids. But it happens. No alternative is viable in my mind for OP and this guy making it. Which is fine, dump him if all the possibilities are bad. But you can't shadow a family for 5 years with no negative consequences. [/quote]

The kids will not at all resent being forced to move for someone who doesn't even want them in her life at all!  Come on.  "Best situation for everyone in the family?"  This is a mess for the kids and a good father would date only people who actually want children in their home.  [/quote]

My whole argument over multiple pages here is that in order for this to remotely be successful, OP needs to establish herself as a trusted adult with a meaningful relationship with the kids. I agree that if she does not want them in her life at all that having them move would be ridiculous. [/quote]

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