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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Honestly, OP, just don't.  Really, if you don't like the idea of being a stepmom, it's unfair to the kids to be one.  They have no control over this and you do.  "Blending" a family (or suffering through one that hasn't really blended) is extremely difficult.  Having someone around who doesn't really want that lifestyle just makes it more difficult for the people who are stuck with it.

You can try to live separately, but the children will still be an enormous part of his life and will necessarily affect your life even if you don't live with or spend time with them very much.  And it is forever.  Yes, children grow up and usually they move out, but sometimes they move back in.  Sometimes they have their own children and then you're a step-grandmother.  You will never, ever be done compromising and accommodating and scheduling things around his ex.  Even if everyone is on their best behavior, it's logistically difficult.

Date someone else.[/quote]

And as they grow, there are going to be tons of events that fall on "your time" - if you are not in 100%, how are you going to feel about going to the softball championship, followed by him being gone for the daddy- daughter dinner dance, etc....This is not going to be neatly split into nice chunks of time as it is now....[/quote]

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