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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]This was a priority for me when choosing a mate. "But I love him" was just not in my family's vocabulary in terms of using 'love' to overlook actual problems/issues.

I'm an RN and patients all say I'm so loving and accepting, a supportive cheerleader of all things. This is true at work- it's literally my job. But not in my spare time.

I did not want to have/create a family of patients to care for so I chose a mate with family members who are attractive, healthy (BMI, physically active, no addiction), lifelong learners (good memory/cognition), problem solvers with good hustle (ie not complainers- if there is a problem, they fix it), no learning disorders (ADD/ADHD etc) and with no mental health/social issues. I was lucky to have a healthy family and I picked the family that 'felt' like mine. DH said the same thing. Different races/nationalities/religions but those things weren't issues for us.

Met/dated some great guys, watched their behaviour, met their families and noped my way out of those relationships. Wish them well but they deserved women who would accept the issues and I knew I wouldn't.[/quote]

Same here. I literally opted out of marrying someone after I've found out his side of the family had mental issues and pretty severe alcoholism cases spanning multiple generations. My DH's family has none of these issues. Everyone is happy, healthy, bright, kind/loving, and non-drinkers. My DH's ex has severe mental/health issues and unfortunately they're beginning to show in my step-DC. Genes always win. [/quote]

Don’t brag too much. Life is full of surprises, unfortunately.[/quote]

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