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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I am sorry, I know this is a complex issue and I mean no disrespect when I say this:

several victims said they were abused and they now are "polite" with the abuser - just make sure their kids are not around that person. I do not understand how you can be "polite" and around that person.

No need to answer or explain yourself to me - you have right to act as you wish...[/quote]

Because sexual predators generally come from very dysfunctional and abusive families, and their victims are part of these families too. The family culture is so steeped in supporting this dysfunction and abuse, in so many detailed ways that it's hard for people from non-abusive families to understand. Standing up to the abusive family member often means losing your entire family of origin. As messed up as these people might be, it's all the victim has. It often means the family members will launch attacks against the victim for bringing this to light. The victim will be called a liar and slandered. It brings more trauma. I know because I did this. I didn't even demand anyone to side with me; I merely told my story. I have exactly one semi-supportive family member and am estranged from almost everyone else. Many relatives completely shut me out. They're very invested in their own narrative of their family. My story is inconsistent with this so I'm discredited. I'm glad I did it but it's no small thing to lose your family or origin, twisted as they may be.[/quote]

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