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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]If it’s an out of town weddin we (almost) categorically wouldn’t go. Weekends are family time and going out of town for the weekend might mean that we go 12 days without really spending quality time with our kids together (rushed weeknight dinners followed by bathtime doesn’t count). [/quote]

So you never do anything on the weekend that's not 100% family time?  You never go away for a girls' weekend?  Your husband never goes away for a guys' weekend?  Sad.  And I say this as someone who works full time, as does my husband.[/quote]

NP. I don’t think it’s “sad” at all. I think it’s nice that she’s prioritizing time with her young children. Plus a lot of people don’t even like girls/guys weekends. They’re kind of a thing for extroverts with lots of disposable income.[/quote]

Actually I'm an introvert.  And I do think it's sad that people can't see beyond themselves and make time for their friends.  Getting married is a big deal, and it's crappy to not even try to go. [/quote]

I'm the one you are criticizing for liking family time.  I think it's the opposite of sad that I'm prioritizing the needs of my children above the needs of my old college roommate who I see once a year.  It's practically the opposite of "can't see beyond myself".  It's putting my kids ahead of casual friends. [/quote]

I'm not criticizing you for liking family time, but you are obviously being defensive.  When did we start talking about an old college roommate who you see once a year?  Keep changing the goal posts if you need to in order to make your argument stronger.[/quote]

DP. It sounds like you are the one being defensive...? Also yes most weddings people are invited to are old college roommates, etc., in my experience. You just sound like you think PP was implying you’re a bad mom for going to weddings. I think you need to relax and understand other people’s social lives are different than yours. I doubt this poster would miss her sister/best fruend’s wedding just to be home with her kids.[/quote]

You have reading comprehension issues.  I never thought PP was saying I'm a bad mom for going to weddings.  I actually haven't gone to a single wedding since I've had kids because all of my friends were either married before that, have never gotten married, or eloped.  So where did that come from?  And what could I possibly be being defensive about?  I couldn't care less if other people's social lives are different from mine.  Obviously I'd expect that that would be the case.  But I think people who don't consider that a wedding is important to someone and make an effort to go are rude.[/quote]

PP expressed an opinion and you called her "sad" repeatedly. That sounds like criticism to me. And you seem to be very angry about her responses. So yes, you sound defensive. Also... why are you so opinionated about this when this hasn't actually affected your life since you had kids?????? Maybe respond once you've actually been invited to a wedding and then realized "oh yea, not sure I want to leave my children and spend a bunch of money to go to this." It honestly sounds like you read PP's post and heard "you're a bad person if you leave your kids for a weekend."[/quote]

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