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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I've got a different take: racists and homophobic people can be good parents, good grandparents, and even good people in many respects.

I've had to interact with quite a few.  While I abhor their views on race and sexual orientation, they are often kind, giving, and well-intentioned in many areas of their lives.

So--do I shun them?  Except in extreme cases, no.

I view them as I would adulterers:  people whose (terrible) flaws cause pain to others, but not people who are wholly defined by their flaws.

When racism/homophobia come up, I civilly but seriously disagree, and often discuss.

I won't claim to have saved any souls, but over time most have toned down the rhetoric and become more nuanced in how they express their views.[/quote]

You must be straight and white. Must be nice to be able to ignore bigoted behavior because it is not directed at you. If you have any non white or gay friends in your life, Please consider how your silence hurts them. But, with your head in sand attitude, you probably surround yourself with only other straight white people. [/quote]

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