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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]It’s very normal that 14 year olds have crushes and ‘date’ and my kids are involved in extracurriculars in a very time consuming way. Op, your daughter may be a late bloomer or maybe she is gay? If guys are getting the vibe that she’s not attracted to them, that could be a factor. The fact that you are so concerned also tells me that you think something is off. [/quote]

I was in this situation in high school and there were several reasons:
Taller than all boys in.my class until senior year
Looked much older, asked out by 20 somethings (did not go of course!) when I was 15. 
Flirted with crushes, but they liked my short blonde friends. 
Went to private school, so the cliques were bad and there was a lot of social exclusion, and I was one of the "poors". Only was able to occasionally date guys from public schools.

One funny thing...two guys I had crushes on in my friend group would have nothing romantically to do with me, even in college. (I was also a scholarship student in college.) I gave up, moved on dated others. 5 years down the road, when they both found out through mutual friends I was in a Master's program at a high ranking University, I started hearing from both and they both asked me out for the first time.

When I went out with them they voluntarily told me that I was:
(1) Too tall in high school but not tall now, they had grown, of xouse. (2) And implied that I now had enough "status" to date. It was unreal.

I expected the tall issue, but not that my family was considered too poor and low status. This wasn't even in DC. Kicked both those guys to the curb immediately, and later found my wonderful dh. But I still feel like I missed out on many high school experiences because dates seemed to be required at this private school back in the day.

Wish my parents had just sent me to public school, where there were a wider range of people and interests. Would encourage your daughter to pursue hobbies and gain skills, and maybe socialize away from her current high school in other groups and activities. [/quote]

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