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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous] :roll: [/quote]

Why roll your eyes?  Were you never a teenage girl?  How would you have felt if all your friends had boys liking them, an no one ever expressed interest in you?  This is the kind of thing that bothers teenage girls (and presumably boys as well). [/quote]
Eye roll is called for here. [b]This OP should understand that this is a blessing and tell her DD that 14 year olds who are into boys are not mature enough to know anything about anything.[/b] If this is OP, your DD is having out with the wrong crowd, plenty of 14 year olds are not into boys apart from some platonic crushes and gazes, same for boys.[/quote]

Look, I would rather not have my 14 year old daughter date.  It's not that I want her to have a boyfriend at her age but I hate to see my daughter sad, when to hear her perspective it seems like everyone else either has a boyfriend or someone who likes them.  And she in no way, hangs out with a "fast" crowd.  She and all her friends are Orchestra nerds, in advanced classes, go to science camps etc.  It's quite normal for 14 year olds to express interest in the opposite sex.  Who are all these 14 year old kids that aren't yet developing crushes?  That would seem to be an anomaly. [/quote]

You are not listening. It is not an anomaly despite what your daughter tells you.  Many 14 year olds of both genders are not dating.  [b]They may be secretly crushing but it isn’t the focus of their lives. At least that is true for my DD’s crowd. [/quote][/b]

Maybe your DD doesn’t feel comfortable discussing these things with you. [/quote]

What things?  That she has a crush on someone?  I am ok with that - she doesn’t need to be sharing everything with me. What I can do and make sure of is that she understands that I believe she is an interesting and valuable young woman. My job is to build her self confidence at this age. That has nothing to do with her crushes - that’s her business.  Hopefully she will grow up not measuring her self worth in how boys in her class perceive her at 14!  [/quote]

The need for boys' attention is sad and a clear sign of low self-esteem. The fact that her mom can't see this is worse. [/quote]

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