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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I always had an aversion to kids, the thought of a mini-me physically creeped me out, so I basically had no maternal instinct.  I've met quite a few women later who also admitted that they had no instinct and didn't miss having kids either.  It's a dirty little secret as supposedly that's not possible.

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Just out of curiosity: are all these women came from dysfunctional families? I always assume there is some childhood trauma, depressed mom or something else that contributed to suppressing an instinct. Some women end up suppressing their sexual instincts, some maternal. But from what I've seen, there is always a reason for why they doing it. [/quote]

For me, yes. Depressed, anxious mom, neglect verging on emotional abuse, no relationship with extended family. I just don't see the upside of having kids - nothing about the parent-child relationship was positive in my experience. [/quote]

New poster...I am a CFBC woman and have to say that my family life wasn't great growing up. I know you think we're deficient because of a lack of 'instinct' but I think such experiences actually contribute to a better insight that raising children isn't a bed of roses. You also forget that for 99.9% of human history, women were unable to dictate their reproductive choices. It's only been what, the last 60 years or so that women have been able to choose. My grandmother had 7 kids...none of them were planned, people just banged like rabbits back in the day. She still died alone so excuse me for being cynical and being "suppressed". [/quote]

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