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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote][quote]I can't speak for those who never wanted kids. I have 3 close girlfriends like this. I never had a burning desire but also was open. The one thing I'll say is if you've never wanted or have kids, you'll wonder sometimes. If you have, you will love. Regardless of how you felt pre-kids you would never regret and chances are you'd want more. It's not logical it's emotional.[/quote]

Sadly, this is just not always true. There are quite a lot of parents who regret having kids. Of course, it's complicated to say, because it's not something that can be undone. But there are certainly people who wish they hadn't made that choice. But most will never admit it out loud (thank goodness, for their children's sake.)[/quote]
I'm the quoted poster above.

No the parents may regret having kids but will always love the kids they have.  Moreover while you might hate parenting for x number of years you will never hate it forever.  I went through years I wished I could be childless but after you see your kids get to a certain age, you're glad you had.  1 year, 5 years, 10 years for count.  After 20 years and the kids grow up, chances are you will be glad you have someone who you know you gave to.  Obviously if you are just a selfish or something is wrong with you type maybe things aren't normal and there extenuating circumstances but most of the time, being a parent makes you fuller. Again - it's all emotional not practical perspective.  The time money energy will take your breath away so if you're into those things just don't think about parenting.  It's just something you are open to or not.[/quote]

DP.  I think you need to take off your rose-colored classes.  While this may be true for the majority, there are many, many deadbeat parents who do not love their children.  Think of the mothers who have abandoned or disposed of their children.  Think of the fathers who abandoned their children and the mothers who bore them.  And think about the welfare parents who have children just to get benefits, but don't care that much about the children.  In poorer areas, there are many who have children who don't love their children.  Your view is an idealized concept that is only predominantly true in middle and higher class areas.[/quote]

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