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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]OP, I wouldn't be so sure this guy would hire you solely on merit. Are you ok with taking a job that you were offered - even in part - because of your flirtatious relationship with this guy?  Are you ok with everyone thinking that's the only reason you got the job? Because that's exactly what they will think, even if you believe you're being discreet, and the way people view you at work will never be the same. You will never come back from that.

Are you ok with the consequences to your DS and your marriage?  Are you ok with not seeing your DS on certain holidays because he's going to be with his father?  Or having to make parental decisions with your ex-DH for the next 10-15+ years?

It sounds like you're indifferent about your marriage because you have this thing with your colleague.  If your colleague wasn't around, maybe things at home wouldn't seem so bad.  It's easy to think the grass is greener and that the issues you have with your DH will resolve once the marriage ends.

I get that it's exciting and things at home are a bit dull.  I understand how it feels to have someone new find you attractive and to feel attracted to them in return.  But have enough respect for yourself, your DS and your DH to do the right thing.  Either knock it off or end the marriage.

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The current status of my marriage has nothing to do with the colleague. DH and I have been having problems for a while. I've known the colleague for almost a year but our relationship has grown closer only over the past month or so. I have been miserable at home so I feel like that is part of the reason I'm even entertaining this. Like I said earlier, "OM" is really not even my type physically. But he's a nice person and has been a good friend towards me and I think that's really what I've been missing which is why I feel myself being drawn to the situation. I know having an affair would be a disaster but I don't want to not be friends with him, he hasn't done anything wrong. Outside of some occasional lightly flirty banter, he's been nothing but a gentleman. And for all I know, he could zero interest in taking things further either and is just enjoying the ego boost. [/quote]

This post makes me feel like OP is trolling.

Troll score: 7.  Not bad, OP, not bad.  Maybe a little too eager to respond, that sort of gave you away.[/quote]

Not really sure why I keep being accused of being a troll. Who has that kind of time? I'm at work on a Friday and its slow in the office. I don't think anything I've said is so out of the ordinary or unrealistic. [/quote]

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