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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Our son got into a top 20 and would not have without us.  We encouraged him to sign up for ECs over the years, prepped him for the ACT, helped him work on a special fundraising project which he talked about in his essay, reviewed and edited his essays (did not rewrite...just gave input), contacted influential alumni who advocated on his behalf, etc. etc.  This is how you get into an elite school these days without a hook.  It's sad but true.[/quote]

White privilege.[/quote]

Rich white priviledge. Unfortunately, my daughter goes to private and is white on a lot of financial aid.  She loves the school, teachers, and opportunities, but we don’t have 5 figures to spend on test prep and tutors. One mom admitted to spending close to 40K on just that alone. Fortunately my daughter doesn’t want the rat race to big name colleges because she is purposely avoiding pressure cooker environment and majority of rich whites. She has already received some merit packages at OOS colleges. She test prepped herself with some books. I didn’t look at any essay, her applications, etc...  We just did the FAFSA and CSS as needed. If your child isn’t ready to apply to college without mommy, are they even ready to be an adult and  to attend college? You are a good mom OP. No guilt. Some moms never end with helicoptering. My MIL is a college professor at GW and the stories the past 10 years are unreal. Parents calling, emailing teachers.  Getting mad at health facilities that they weren’t notified of minor things.  Coming in to decorate dorms, giving unlimited uber accounts, credit cards, not even asking them to work PT for spending money, etc.... So those kids really aren’t adulting yet. It is a major disadvantage. [/quote]

I hear you!  The amount of time and money parents seem to spend on getting their kid into a college that they wouldn’t get in on their own is astounding, even in public schools. I refuse to jump in on that game. If my child asks for help, I will. [/quote]

You really have zero clues. Do you even have children? You clearly have no understanding of the scope that parenting includes. No student is going to get into an excellent college without being 100% committed to everything it takes to get into that college. Whether a parent has paid for help with tutoring or classes, has made suggestions along the way in no way negates that student's achievement. Like I said, its called parenting.

Maybe for you parenting is paying the rent and putting a frozen pizza on the table. To each his own.[/quote]

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