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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Our son got into a top 20 and would not have without us.  We encouraged him to sign up for ECs over the years, prepped him for the ACT, helped him work on a special fundraising project which he talked about in his essay, reviewed and edited his essays (did not rewrite...just gave input), contacted influential alumni who advocated on his behalf, etc. etc.  This is how you get into an elite school these days without a hook.  It's sad but true.[/quote]

White privilege.[/quote]

Rich white priviledge. Unfortunately, my daughter goes to private and is white on a lot of financial aid.  She loves the school, teachers, and opportunities, but we don’t have 5 figures to spend on test prep and tutors. One mom admitted to spending close to 40K on just that alone. Fortunately my daughter doesn’t want the rat race to big name colleges because she is purposely avoiding pressure cooker environment and majority of rich whites. She has already received some merit packages at OOS colleges. She test prepped herself with some books. I didn’t look at any essay, her applications, etc...  We just did the FAFSA and CSS as needed. If your child isn’t ready to apply to college without mommy, are they even ready to be an adult and  to attend college? You are a good mom OP. No guilt. Some moms never end with helicoptering. My MIL is a college professor at GW and the stories the past 10 years are unreal. Parents calling, emailing teachers.  Getting mad at health facilities that they weren’t notified of minor things.  Coming in to decorate dorms, giving unlimited uber accounts, credit cards, not even asking them to work PT for spending money, etc.... So those kids really aren’t adulting yet. It is a major disadvantage. [/quote]

SO judgemental!!  What's the point of education or working hard for money if not to benefit your kids.  Why is it necessary for you to be judgemental about how other people spend their personal money.  I sounds like your daughter was weak or a poor student so you withdrew from the high pressured private school world.  It also sounds like she only applied to schools with simple applications (which is not at all the case for kids applying to top schools).  I am so sorry that you are not able to give your daughter a firm foundation and instead of looking in the mirror have decided to demonize others.  We are ALL trying to be good parents...[/quote]

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