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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I don’t know the answer but my plan when I have DIL:
-Treat her the same way I treat my sons
-Show up the day a baby is born and say “what help do you need?”  If the help they want from me is to scrub toilets, I’ll scrub toilets.
-Attend as many of my grandkids school functions and extracurricular functions as possible. 
-Stay busy with my own life so I don’t sit around and come up with expectations for my sons and their spouses.  While I hope to be involved in my sons’ life and his family’s life, I won’t be Marie in “Everybody loves Raymond.”  Whether my son has a wife who breastfeeds or bottle feeds, I will be supportive of her decision.
-Honor their family and right to parent as they wish.  Don’t impose my opinion on their lives.
-Show a genuine interest in their lives.

Family first.  No time for drama.  [/quote]

I know wonderful, generous women whose DIL still complained about them. You just don't know what kind of DIL you will have. You do the above, you may still have a DIL coming on here and complaining about an overbearing MIL. You do the above, you may still also have a DIL coming on here complaining about an uncaring, distant MIL who doesn't love her grandchildren.

I'd focus instead on raising as good a son as I can, because the kinder, more generous and good the man, the better his wife will be and the happier the relationships will be. [/quote]

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