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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Trust me,  DH's wife is no saint.  She told the entire neighborhood her inaccurate version of events before I even moved here.   As a result,  my kids are often excluded from things like birthday parties and sleepovers, she's that petty and bitter.  She can't let go, and even flew out for a "weekend visit" with my in-laws last summer WITHOUT her kids.  You don't know the whole story and I'm not going to say more. [/quote]

Ok. My second and last post, though if you have read 6 pages of responses essentially saying the same thing, and still don’t get it, this one won’t change your mind. So here is my last futile attempt.

Your neighbors don’t care about whatever you think she may have told them. They just don’t. Your 4 year old twins are too young for play dates and sleepovers and even your 7 year old is on the youngish side for sleepovers. So in your mind, the neighbors are having all these wonderful sleepovers for 4-5 year olds and not inviting your kids because of what your husband’s ex-wife said about you a year ago? It doesn’t occur to you that may be your kids are too young or any other reason? Or on top of the fact that your kids have lived there less than a year and 50% of the time, you want to send them off on a sleepover? Did you invite neighbor kids for play dates or sleepovers? Are the older kids being invited, while your younger kids are not? Or are no kids invited at all?

Also, why does it bother you so much what your ex-friend does with her time? She is free to socialize with your husbands family with or without kids. What is your issue with that? Or who she saw or didn’t see? The woman who welcomed you in her home, with your kids. You mentioned that you had play dates between your kids and hers, but given there is a 3 year difference between your oldest and her youngest, I doubt these were true play dates, but more like grown up get togethers and your older played with her kids. May be in your mind these were play dates, but as a mom of two kids who play with younger kid of freiemds, these are by no means play dates for the older kids. I would also be very bitter if a woman who I have welcomed and hosted in my home together with her kid, slept with my husband and ended up living in the same house she used to visit as a guest. You sure must understand why she is upset and bitter, no?

Stop being so egocentric. Not everything revolves around you. Not every decision your step kids, their mother, your in laws, or your neighbors do is about you. Try to step for a minute in others’ shoes and understand their perspective and show empathy and kindness.[/quote]

She wants sleepovers and drop off parties so its less time with the kids.[/quote]

This!  You're getting only half time with your children, and you want to share it with two more children and sometimes friends?  Come on.  How are they getting enough attention to help them cope with everything you've put them through?[/quote]

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