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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]You are only going to be there a few days and two of the nights will be in San Diego.  Why not just stay in San Diego the entire time and commute in to the office?

You might not be able to do it this trip but think about doing it on subsequent trips.  I can't blame your wife for wanting to see San Diego.  There is a ton of stuff to do there.[/quote]

Long drive to San Diego to where I am going.  It would be like staying in DC while working in Emmitsburg.[/quote]

I thought you said it was an hour NE?[/quote]

Not OP but people seem to keep harping on details.  Maybe it is like staying in DC and commuting to Frederick.  Would you want to do that?  Commute 2 hours daily on a business trip just so spouse can have a nice, only partially free vacation?  I'd rather plan a separate trip for the two of us, which it sounds like OP has done.  I agree his tone in some of the posts is a little off putting, and I don't understand why he can't calmly explain situation to his wife or to DCUM, but this trip does not sound like a workable couples trip.[/quote]

OMG 100% this - staying an hour away from where you have to be on a work trip would be excruciating. Work trips are exhausting. You have to be on from morning until evening, sometimes through dinner and beyond. Sometimes you get to enjoy yourself a little bit at a local restaurant with work colleagues, who you either have to keep being on for or else who you end up inappropriately casual with because you're too tired to maintain the professional facade.

The best part is when you can go collapse - alone! - in your close-by hotel room at the end of the day, whenever that happens to be.

Work travel isn't vacation. If you're lucky you get an hour or two - or a couple of hours - to go sightsee or hang out. But it is so , so tiring.

And before anyone jumps down my throat - I am the wife of someone who travels several times a month for work. I travel a few times a year for work. I could see going with my husband if I understood entirely that I would be on my own most of the day and most of the night, or if we were tacking on a few days at the end to go enjoy ourselves. Not if I expected that I'd get his attention - or, if he came on one of my trips, he'd get mine - much at all while the work period was happening.

That said I agree entirely that OP and his wife should take a real trip together, and soon.[/quote]

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