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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Life would be dramatically different.  I wouldn’t use his SNs as a crutch.  I have two children who are high functioning, but also on the spectrum and ADHD. One also has anxiety and depression.  No way would I try to justify or excuse physical violence. I would talk to the nanny about what she wants.  Offer two weeks of full pay and a perfect reference if she wants to quit. And my child would have a mattress, blankets, and clothing in his room. Maybe a book. And nothing else. No electronics.  He would be in his room except for school and meals.  I would allow him to gradually earn back his possessions and freedom.

My kids are older.  We don’t play those games in our house.  You hurt someone, life as you once knew it ends. [/quote]

Preach it....[/quote]

Yes - sure, until you realize that it still doesn’t work and then - start over!
It’s nice to be all sanctimonious and holier than thou but that doesn’t mean that your advice will work.
But continue to listen to Dr Laura - she can be quite entertaining. [/quote]

Here is the thing, the reason why it doesn’t work is bc you tend to wait until 12 to try to fix behavior that has already appeared and has escalated. Your child didn’t just start acting out at age 12. The behavior was always there but you waited until it became violent toward other ppl to decide now is the time to do something. Had you addressed the behavior correctly in the beginning then you wouldn’t be scrambling to figure out what to do. [/quote]

You are reading a lot into this. OP did not give us the full developmental history of her kid or their interventions. And you are wrong in that puberty DOES  bring on new behaviors and often aggression in a previously easy going kid. It happened exactly like that in my ASD kid.[/quote]

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