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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Yeah, don't force it. Like having a new baby at 43 with a grandpa seems a little forced when you both have children. [/quote]

This! Sorry but true.[/quote]

+2. What I have been thinking all thread. WTAF OP?  You married someone 20-25 years your senior.  Brought two young kids into the marriage.  Then had a baby with him (with help?  Not always easy to get pregnant at 42 naturally).  And are surprised Holidays Chez Trump went badly?  Come on.  This was bound to go badly.

Also, if you actually want things to go smoother, PPs have a point. It must be tough that their mother isn’t there to be grandma, and now their dad has three new little kids to dote on, instead of his grandkids. If you actually want to find a way to make things better for your DH, then help him find a way to be more involved with the first round of kids and grandkids.  For example, [b]maybe he could take each of his kids, and their kids, somewhere fun for a long weekend each year— Disney, NYC, etc.[/b]  As the grandkids get older, have them come to your house for a few days in the summer, and give their parents some time off. They can get to know their half/ step grand siblings and also be sure spend some one on one time with their grandfather.  Everyone there at once is impossible demands on your DH’s attention, and setting it up to fail. [/quote]

The reason this doesn’t make sense is because OP has a baby. It’s a little ridiculous to expect the family with a baby to give the family with a 5 and 7 year olds a break. I think Stepdaughter knows this and that’s another reason she’s upset and grieving all over again. Her children will never get the attention from their grandfather that they otherwise would have. It sucks but that’s life.

How many of you would be okay with your DH leaving you alone with the baby (AND using a bunch of vacation time several times a year - there’s more than one adult kid) to take grandchildren to Disney? This in addition to all the work travel you have to cover for each other. It’s not happening - and SD knows this. Sometimes you have to deal with reality and not be a jerk about it. [/quote]

I would be fine with it.  Because that's what you get when you CHOOSE TO MARRY A GRANDFATHER.[/quote]

+1.  Also, he could easily be retired by now.[/quote]

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