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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Im curious as to why everyone says not to date/marry someone who is bi?  I totally understand why OP shouldn't date him if he's gay, but bi?  Seems a bit restrictive.  Bi does mean that he can fall in love with someone (and stay monogamous) regardless of gender.[/quote]

Historically a high percentage of men who claimed to be bi were merely gay men still halfway in the closet. And talk to any gay men and they'll tell you the apps are rife with "bi" men cheating on wives and girlfriends. Some even thrive off it like a sexual kick. A lot of gay men distrust bi men for this reason, and another common complaint is that bi men are merely looking for sex but are incapable of developing deeper feelings and at the end of the day most end up, or try to end up, with an unsuspecting woman so they can have the normal life with kids.

And most women don't care for bi men because most women are not appealed by the notion of their husband having done specific kinds of sexual activities. And, as been referenced already on this thread, you'd always be worried about your husband straying with another man because how does one give up the sexual hunger for other men?

I have a gay brother and gay friends but I would not date a bi man no more than I would date a gay man. No matter how wonderful the individual man may be otherwise, the risks are too high and the notion of a bisexual partner is a major turnoff. 
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PP basically feeds the stereotype that bis are inherently untrustworthy, damaged, people.

Lots of “straight” men have some same sex attraction. They are just forced to hide it because modern society insists that men categorize themselves as either 100% straight or 100% gay.

Fortunately, younger people are thankfully less dogmatic about this kind of stuff and are more willing to acknowledge shades of gray.[/quote]

I think you're just in a form of denial. These stereotypes exist for a reason. They're based on many people learning it the hard way.

- Straight woman here who would never date a bi man.

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