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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]OP, here. I guess I feel the need to defend myself a bit here. My son’s been having issues with feeding - gagging, choking, hard swallows, coughing - for the past 8 months (as in, when he started solids). The daycare has catered meals; he already had a designated lunch buddy (an adult who sits with him while he eats) and had been getting food that is chopped in smaller pieces than his same-age peers. So after he got a piece of pear the size of a Cheerio lodged in his throat, his pediatrician suggested he get a feeding evaluation done. A SLP with extra training in feeding issues (swallowing, chewing, moving the tongue) does the evaluation. It turned out his mouth skills are fine, but I don’t think I overreacted by taking this seriously.

As a side note, I got married and had him in my late thirties. It’s looking like we won’t be able to have another child. And I think that pain, in combination with “trying to keep a toddler alive” is making me more sensitive.

On the other hand, my parents have a history of invalidating and minimizing my feelings and experiences. This interaction just felt different because they were minimizing what happened to my child.[/quote]

You sound like a drama queen, so it is no wonder they have a history of invalidating and minimizing your feelings and experiences. No doubt they are fed up. Plus, apart from choking part, needy baby greedy baby, you and your kid together! He is choking because he is greedy with food. Again, APART FROM CHOKING the whole thing is funny. Feed training because he stuffs too much. take charge and feed the kid yourself, do not let him stuff his mouth until he is older. You are overreacting to everything, no doubt. Do you know who says something like invalidating my feelings? Insane people, you are insane.[/quote]

The gagging is significant enough that the daycare has assigned a designated adult to sit with OP's child and has ordered special preparation of his food.  The American Red Cross states that a child who's had back blows to dislodge food needs to have a medical evaluation.  But, you random person, are more qualified to make determinations on these matters, so OP is a drama queen?  OP, I think there are just some mean spirited people who try to belittle anyone they can.  If this has been going on for eight months, your parents likely know this is a concern the daycare has seen frequently enough in your child to have a designated helper.  Their reactions were incredibly inappropriate.  Don't leave them alone with your DC while they are visiting.  If they continue to be dismissive, pay for them to stay at a hotel so you can get away from them for periods while they are visiting.  [/quote]

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