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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]OP, did you advise your daughter to look for a single? What was the advice you gave her when she "came clean" to you?
You seem to become rather defensive when asked if DD could be telling the story in a way as to put herself in best light. Even if it were due to her own charged emotions blinding her for the moment to the roommate s perspective. 
What was DDs reaction to having her phone taken and smashed with no preamble or known cause? Did she simply sit there and watch? Does that seem in character for her?[/quote]
I don’t think it is defensive to simply state that no, I have not considered the fact that my daughter is lying, or that she’s just a drunken sorority girl looking for an excuse, etc. That’s just not the kind of parent I am, and DD has always been trustworthy. Sorry.

She called me about a week ago to fill me in and told me the FULL extent of what was going on. Prior to this, we’d heard some not great things about the roommate, but she said she didn’t want to worry us by telling us what was REALLY happening. She is very independent and I think she had hope she’d be able to fix this on her own.

I did not advise her to get a single. She said she talked to the housing office earlier that afternoon and they told her that they had an open single due to a student leaving to study abroad in the spring and that she could move in at the end of the week.

The phone throwing incident is what made her realize she needed to get out stat and no amount of attempting to reason with the roommate would make this better. I am not sure what DD’s immediate reaction was.

I didn’t give her that much advice. She told me what was happening and how this was the last straw, what her plan was, and how she was nervous the roommate would be angry. I said that if she truly felt threatened she should contact campus security, and she said OK. That’s really about it. [/quote]Your kid sounds like she has a level head on her shoulders.  Until you described this, it sounded like she was too passive in the situation but this makes her sound rational and someone who is learning to take care of herself.  Go, daughter![/quote]

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