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Why? Because I speak the hard truth?

I am not the one bankrupting myself to keep things "50/50." I married a great guy 30 plus years ago, so I have 100 percent access to our kids, who are about to launch into adulthood.

No wasting money to divorce lawyers  -- instead it goes into family enrichment like vacations and college tuition funds. A much better use of family resources than Mr. 50/50.

Who you marry can make the biggest difference in your life. As Mr. 50/50 is finding out the hard way, crappy wife, crappy life.

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NP. You sound insufferable.[/quote]

But yet, I am not divorced, and my kids aren't shuffled from house to house so things can be "50/50." They come from a happy home, not a brloken mess.

I get angry when adults are so selfish and don't put their children's well being above their own desires. Marriage can be hard work (although mine had been challenging only a few years out of the more than 30) and people give up too easily.

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If one parent doesn't feel 50/50 is good for the kids, that parent needs to make the sacrifice of being the visiting parent and let the other parent have primary custody.  Its the reality of divorce.  You cannot say you do not agree with 50/50 but then demand 90/10 with the other parent being a visitor in the kids lives.[/quote]

You can if one parrnt hadn't been 50/50 all along.  If they have had a 95/5 parenting balance while married and suddenly the 5%parent wants 50/50...it's suddenly about the $.

At any rate, if it works for your situation to do 50/50 and the kids can manage it, then fine.  I just think it would be placing the burden of the divorce on the kids.  But every situation has multiple factors to consider.[/quote]

The kids carry a huge burden already but having one parent cut out of their lives is only going to make it worse.  Parenting is more than just running them to the doctor, activities and school.  You cannot say a parent isn't doing an equal share if one parent is the main financial person who has a huge weight to carry and the other picks up the slack at home.  They are equally parenting but in different ways.

You think if Mom is a SAH or part-time, and she goes full time that she's going to spend as much time with the kids, NO.  If Dad cuts back his work hours, then Mom will lose alimony/child support money which is an issue.  Usually when one parent/the woman wants full custody it is because of child support/alimony vs. best for the kids. [/quote]

If someone says "I think X, but your way is possible too..."  you keep coming back to insults and insisting your way is right and anyone who says different is wrong.  You are showing the type of thinking that leads to divorce -- "I am right and you are wrong."  You leave no room for another opinion.  You attack, attack, attack and insist you are right.

So, ok, enjoy that custody arrangement.... and best of luck on marriage #2.[/quote]

No plans to divorce. Husband is divorced.  I would do 50/50 as it took two of us to bring our kids into the world and we are equal parents.  I may do more but I have the luxury of not working and he is working but he is an equal parent in every aspect and very capable of doing everything I do. If something happened to me, I know he'd take good care of them.[/quote]

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