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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Remember:  A sweet person who just needs to lose some fat, is still a sweet person. If they lose the fat, they will be a thin, sweet person - very attractive.

An azzhole, fat or thin, has no such quick fix.[/quote]
Is your name pollyanna? No amount of sweet can make a fat person attractive. And I can't be attracted to somebody based upon their "potential" to be attractive... if he/she would only lose 50 pounds of ugly fat. Especially if you married that person when they actually WERE a thin/sweet person (like you said, very attractive) and expected them to actually care enough about you/themselves to not go changing in ugly ways.[/quote]

The point is, a person can lose 50 pounds in a matter of months if they put their mind to it.  It's amazing how much people can transform their bodies...

It would be much harder for an ahole to learn empathy and love.  If you married someone because they were "hot" and you really don't value the person inside.....then they may be much better off w/o you.

Age has a way of doing some pretty unattractive things to our bodies even if you never get fat.  Botox can only do so much.  When you genuinely love and support someone you see the beauty in them.  [/quote]
The only time I've ever seen a married person who gained 50 pounds then invest the effort to lose it is either while having an affair, planning for divorce, or right after the divorce. For some reason, married people who gain weight seem to [b]never [/b]be motivated to lose it for their (current) spouse, whom they claim to love and cherish (...pass me another donut).

Idealistic statements about what somebody "could" do, or that aholes rarely change, or seeing somebody's inner beauty (while ignoring their outer unattractiveness) are just not very productive.[/quote]

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