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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Never in a million years. Everyone we know with more money than us has more problems, one way or another. Usually marriage problems but also spoiled brat kids, low self esteem, etc. No thanks![/quote]

I do NOT understand the people who think money solves "everything".  How naive!  There are people whose IL's help them out in so many ways.  One person I know works full time, but her ILs bought her a car, because she wanted a certain kind of car (but says the ILs wanted that kind of car - WTH). Or pays for their DC's private schooling, but still has the cujones to b*tch about their ILs - after all of the ILs generosity.  Take the money or don't, but don't b*tch about them.  Not saying that is what PPs are doing, because they don't seem to be, but some people really have no couth whatsover. [/quote]

I am not rich, but my IL are. They are financially generous -helped us with the downpayment on the house, gifted us their used luxury SUV, and put enough money yearly in a 529 that its likely to provide for DD college. DH and I still budget, but can make ends meet comfortably because of in-laws and can work FED jobs and live in the city due to them.  I am grateful. every. day. for their help, but I also sometimes regret taking it and was very hesitant to take it. It comes with strings, and the money means nothing to them, they have so much. Instead it was a subtle way to place strings. I don't say this to bitch about them (although I do so you can feel free to judge me), but to say I feel I'd rather have bought the small house in MD or even move to another place with a lower COL and not be beholden to them. Maybe your friend is just ungrateful, but sometimes money isn't just a gift, and it doesn't make everything better.  It can relieve certain stressors, such, but it often brings others.

My family on the other hand, can't offer financial help.  But they do offer hands on love with their grandchild. I'll take that over money any day. [/quote]

I should also say the mine and DH family are a good example of why money isn't always better.  I am one of four and grew up with just about what we needed and he grew up wealthy.  My family is warm, close, and honest. His has a weird distance and tells each other next to nothing. DH lost his job for six months and didn't tell his parents.  I would have sought my parents emotional support without hesitation. [/quote]

+1, sort of. I think it's more about attitudes toward money. My husband and I both came from households with probably equal wealth (upper middle class), but his parents raised their kids to be entitled and wasteful, while my family was more frugal and down-to-earth. I'm close to my siblings and parents while my husband is not (but pretends like he is).

To answer the original question, I do enjoy rich moms, and rich people in general. I would still work if I was rich but I could send my son to a nicer daycare and wouldn't have to stress about which of our cars to replace and how we're going to pay for it, and we could live in a nicer home, and I could hire some help with my son - and pay for IVF to give him a sibling!!! That would be nice.[/quote]

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