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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]^^^^i love spending time with my spouse but meither of us would have a meltdown because the other wanted to golf with friends instead of doing a group bike ride they were apparently supposed to know about via extrasensory perception.

Guaranteed OP’s “tradition” is simply thought of as “we never do anything except maybe go for a walk so maybe I can use this day off to see my friends I don’t usually get to spend time with”

But instead OP is giving him some kind of pseudo-test he failed. She never even mentions the kid. The kid is like a non issue in all of this. It’s just her, her, her. [/quote]

Generally it's a good idea to run things like this by your spouse on a holiday.  Op asked her husband if he would like to do the bike ride with her and that is when she found out that he had made plans that she was not a part of.

Maybe you don't care if your spouse does his own thing during the holidays but I can totally see why Op was looking forward to spending the day with her husband whether they went on the bike ride or did something else together.  Op is not biotching that her husband did not want to go on the bike ride, she is upset because her husband has essentially planned to do things with his buddies on a day that they have always enjoyed some time together as a couple.  [b]The fact that Op then has to host this group of her husband's friends only rubs salt in the wound.
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I get why Op is upset.[/quote]

I agree. Especially since it's obvious that DH assumes that she will just take on all the prep on her own while he's out or that dinner will magically appear.[/quote]

I'd be upset, too.  Her husband should have asked before making a tee time on THANKSGIVING.  Especially if he generally expects to be consulted about much smaller events, like attending a kid's birthday party.  It was inconsiderate not to.  OP is not unreasonable for being upset.

And if my husband pulled a stunt like that, I'd be asking him how he expected dinner to get cooked.  [/quote]

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