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[quote=Anonymous]OP, I understand having second thoughts even when your reaction is right in the moment.   I recently had a kinda similar experience that involved shouting at a guy who was doing something extremely irresponsible and endangering others.   I was right to shout (it was an urgent situation), but I was upset in the moment and second guessed myself afterward, partly because of how other people reacted.

Other people  saw a big angry guy yelling at a skinny older guy and reacted to that rather than what happened.  Their perceptions of what happened were shaped by that, not by the event.  I talked to bystanders after the guy left, and they at first claimed to have seen a couple of things that absolutely did not happen.  When I challenged them, they backtracked, admiting that they hadn’t really personally seen anything (“someone said you did X”), and that skinny older guy was a known problem (actually suggesting that calling the cops on him might be appropriate), but initially they were against me because I was loud.

I think your “friends” saw the push and not what happened before it, so their perceptions are shaped by that.  You know what you saw, and it sucks that other people don’t realize that, but the only person whose perception matters is your daughter (and maybe creepy guy who will learn a lesson). [/quote]

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