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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Was it Jeffrey Dahmer or Charles Manson that said an unlocked door was like an invitation to come in? I think it was Dahmer. People absolutely do test doors to see if they're locked. [/quote]

Home invasions are extraordinarily rare. They happen but the odds of it happening to YOU, in suburbia are comically low. It is winning the bad lottery uncommon. [/quote]

COnstant BS excuses in order not to do something that is common sense, is what drives me crazy. Please tell me you do not have kids. [/quote]

I have two! They have reasonable reactions to minor failings that they encounter in other people (actually that is a lie, my one year old melted down over a box of cheez-its being empty today but it is the long term goal).

As I said above, my argument isn't that locking doors is pointless and stupid. Its that i[b]t shouldn't be a marriage killer.[/b] [/quote]

OP's DH seems to be on a power trip and passive aggressively never locking the door at night after he walks the dog. He literally says "Get over it, not going to do it."

So now what's the underlying issue here?  He is incapable of locking the front door?  He doesn't want to do what his spouse is asking?  He doesn't care what is important to his spouse?  He is incapable of remembering to do things?  All of the above?[/quote]

This is OP - he's not doing it as a power trip (I don't think). He's really a good person, just absentminded sometimes. He works a lot and is tired, and sometimes normal life stuff- locking doors - just slips his mind. Then he gets defensive when I tell him that I'm bothered about the door. He's gotten much better about it than he used to be, but it still happens sometimes. So that's why I would like to get some technological fix here, so that it's something we don't have to count on him remembering to do if possible.[/quote]

OP, do you guys have kids?

Do you want to have kids? If so, are you on the same page about raising the kids, expectations, paying attention, splitting work load, etc.?[/quote]

OP here: We don't have kids and aren't planning to have kids. We are more or less on the same page about regular life stuff. [/quote]

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