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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Was it Jeffrey Dahmer or Charles Manson that said an unlocked door was like an invitation to come in? I think it was Dahmer. People absolutely do test doors to see if they're locked. [/quote]

Home invasions are extraordinarily rare. They happen but the odds of it happening to YOU, in suburbia are comically low. It is winning the bad lottery uncommon. [/quote]

COnstant BS excuses in order not to do something that is common sense, is what drives me crazy. Please tell me you do not have kids. [/quote]

I have two! They have reasonable reactions to minor failings that they encounter in other people (actually that is a lie, my one year old melted down over a box of cheez-its being empty today but it is the long term goal).

As I said above, my argument isn't that locking doors is pointless and stupid. Its that i[b]t shouldn't be a marriage killer.[/b] [/quote]

OP's DH seems to be on a power trip and passive aggressively never locking the door at night after he walks the dog. He literally says "Get over it, not going to do it."

So now what's the underlying issue here?  He is incapable of locking the front door?  He doesn't want to do what his spouse is asking?  He doesn't care what is important to his spouse?  He is incapable of remembering to do things?  All of the above?[/quote]

Ummmmm no. He is not being passive aggressive, even OP herself isn't claiming that. He is forgetful and exasperatedly said, "well, sorry, but it's going to happen every now and then. Deal with it." That isn't a kind way to say anything but he's not saying he's doing it to hurt her, he's saying he forgets sometimes and is sick of being chewed out for it.

You seem like you got some issues pp that have nothing to do with this OP. [/quote]

This is OP - and that second reading - the forgetful and exasperated reading - is more in line with what's actually going on. (Thanks for understanding, PP!)[/quote]

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