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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I honestly don’t see the big deal here.  Do you really think people are roaming your neighborhood checking front door locks?[/quote]

Yes. [/quote]

It's called situational awareness. If you have a wife and young children in the house, you want to take EVERY precaution to keep them safe. End of f-ing story. No debate on this one. [/quote]

Don't let your family out of the house. Maybe put them in bubble wrap. ABSOLUTELY don't let them get in a car. End of f-ing story. No debate on this one. [/quote]

This is OP - and for those who are reading this, now you can see a little bit about how fun it is having this argument with someone who doesn't share your concerns about safety. I don't feel that locking the door is such a WILD AND CRAZY THING you should have to justify doing it. It's a simple, easy, commonsense way to try to protect yourself, your home, and those you love. But obviously - as you can see from PP - certain other people really dig in and probably leave their doors unlocked just to prove a point! Luckily my husband does not go that far, as to say that locking the door is basically irrelevant in this modern world. He acknowledges, at least, that it is better to lock the door - he just forgets to do it often enough that I think we will buy one of those smart locks and hopefully that'll solve the problem.[/quote]

OP I'm one of the posters that I think you must think would be crazy to argue with.

It is possible (and in fact my opinion) that BOTH of you are kind of in the wrong here. He should I dunno, have painted something on the front door or set up a phone alarm or something to remind him of this. AND you probably shouldn't chew his head off when he forgets, especially if overall there has been great improvement. Getting into fights over falling short of perfection isn't particularly kind and loving either.

The people talking about how it isn't that big a deal are not saying that there is no point in locking their door, they are saying that, statistically, realistically, it isn't that big a deal. It isn't likely to endanger you, and if you're finding out about it morning after, nothing happened to you. And that is what your husband is saying too. I would certainly not leave doors unlocked just to annoy a spouse. But if I had a major issue with my spouse, a fight that came up repeatedly, and it was about something that really isn't that big of a deal in the grand scheme of things, I would try to point it out to them.

Hopefully technology fixes this problem. But you are basically ignoring the other, just as reasonable, side of this argument. And if you want a relationship filled with mutual respect, you should also try, genuinely, to see where he is coming from on it. Because you're both right! But only one of you is trying really hard to meet the other one halfway (I guess you getting the electronic doorknob is you taking the first step).[/quote]

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