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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]OP again.

To those who have explained the perspective of why people don't entertain, thank you.

If you can not invite people back (for whatever reason) other gestures are appreciated. A mailed thank you note. Offering a ride to the airport. Bringing over something from your garden. Babysitting. Whatever you can afford with your time and money. I think too often people think that others don't care about these manners and etiquette. I think people do care and they do notice when it's not done.

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OP, have you ever thought about the fact that some people just don't want to hang out with you that much? We get invited by other people *so much,* and some families are particular culprits of the serial invites. We try to say no when we can, but we don't want to be rude or stand-offish. Our kids have a *lot* of friends, and their many parents are constantly inviting us for dinner, drinks, suggesting outings together etc. It would be rude to say no all the time, and we want our kids to maintain relationships with these other kids. In addition, my husband I have a lot of colleagues, and they also often invite us.  Then we also have 2-3 very close friends and family members that we actually *want* to hang out with a regular basis, and that also takes time out of our schedules. To pay off our dues to those who are not very close to us, we try to reciprocate as often as we can, usually with a couple of fairly big brunches or dinners each year. But I really don't want to be hanging out with other people more than 1x a month, and by the time the year is over, we've been invited way more times than we could ever hope to reciprocate. (Also we don't drink alcohol, so many of these events are just boring to us because people get drunk and start to act stupid.)  Long story short: some people actually feel burdened by these many invites, simply because they don't like hanging out with casual acquaintances that much. [/quote]

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