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[quote=Anonymous]Guy here with wife who has stayed at home with kids for nearly ten years now. Slightly different consideration in that she was a big firm lawyer before deciding to stay home, and I am a partner at a law firm. Some things to consider:

1. The inherent dynamics of respect and appreciation currently in your relationship will inform how you each respond to the new dynamic. I very much appreciate all my wife does, and she appreciates all I do. We work together to make it work.

2. It is true that it is a lot of pressure to be the sole breadwinner, and being a senior associate is sort of a pivotal time period for most big law lawyers. That is when you are figuring out whether you will stick around the firm, lateral, go in house, try to work for the govt, etc.

3. Something discussed a lot in this thread, which is true, is that it can be hard to get back into the game once you have more time. So finding a way to keep somewhat active in your field is probably a good plan. Even if it is just networking.

4. Something that is not discussed much in this thread is that choice for us was whether to have one of us be the primary caretaker of our child (then, children), or whether we wanted someone else to be. To us, it was important that our kids be raised by parents and not daycare, as much as possible. And even with generous leave, it seemed insane to us to leave a relatively brand new baby with strangers. But that was us. All the logistical and financial concerns were a distant second.

5. DC is an expensive place to live. It sounds though like you will actually have a net gain in income from staying home, although long term it might be a loss if you are out of the job market for a long time. But again, those financial considerations are secondary. But it does put a lot of pressure on the sole earner to make a lot of money.

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