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[quote=Anonymous]OP, it is a bittersweet time in your life. The kids grow up and leave and you miss them. Your house which was such a hub of activities suddenly become empty and quite.

First of all, embrace what you are feeling. You are not crazy for feeling this way. I cried when I put away the baby clothes of my son when he became a toddler. I cried when he went to school the first time as a kindergartner. This is a normal feeling when change happens. I cried when I left my beloved apartment to move into my first house.   This is basically nostalgia which is always a bit melancholy.

When I have a transition - I usually do a weekend of binge crying, tearjerkers movies, lots of icecream and popcorn and bawling my eyes out. Then I take a long nap and I am over it. You may have a different way of coping with it.

You do not have to do anything at all with how you feel for some time. You can super-organize your house, get rid of clutter, start going for a walk, look after your health, beautify your home and yard, get in shape, get a makeover, get your paperwork in order, invite people over for dinner...in other words, do not think about the kids moving away, instead just organize your life.

After some time, start doing things with your DH- find  old and new hobbies. You will find that little by little you start feeling the peace that comes when you have time for yourself.  If you want, you can volunteer, work part-time. travel etc.  When you have grandkids, you can start helping out.

You are feeling what you are feeling and as someone said before, you have to experience the feelings too.  If you cannot function at all...by all means see a therapist etc. 
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