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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous] I strongly agree with this.  I tested in 5th grade at 149, and it was one of the worst things that ever happened to me.  Although I have a job with a good salary (even by DCUM standards), I still have atrocious work habits.  My two kids also tested in the 90s percentile-wise at 4 and are in early elementary school.  Luckily, the school has grouping for reading and math, so they don't know they are supposed to be one of the smart ones.  They know they have to work to learn at school. [/quote]

It's very common for gifted kids to never learn proper work habits and study skills in primary school because they were never challenged enough to need them.  Are you sure this isn't one of the reasons for your lacking work habits?[/quote]

It's one thing to know you're really smart and love school and always get all the answers right and get an award for being the smartest girl in X grade, but it is an entirely different thing to be told you are gifted.  Having that label can be really bad - from teachers who resent it (happened to me in high school), to teachers who push your parents to place you in AP classes in the middle of the school year because they must fill some slots (so you start already behind and you feel like you just must not be "gifted" in math rather than realizing it was a crappy idea to change in the middle), to feeling like you don't really have to do the work because you can skate by on your smarts.  Even if you are under challenged, it still feels good to get the answers all right when you do not know that is the baseline expectation.  But, when you think you are above it all?  That just leads to bad work habits and uneven grades.  Hate, hate, hate the label.  It's one I hope my kids never learn they have (which I expect they otherwise would because my husband's IQ is not determinable - the test maxes out at 160, so I'm the dumb one in our house).[/quote]

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