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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]The way you write it sure sounds like she's overreacting, but ask yourself whether you are frequently critical.  Sometimes it's not that you didn't like the chair she picked, it's that you criticized the last 17 things she's suggested or done, and this is just the last straw.  Or that you frequently criticize without offering alternatives (so that "let's consider alternatives" really means "you go find some more options for me to consider") so she's making all the suggestions and you're just shooting them down, rather than you offering alternatives.

Also consider your tone.  You might think that the words you are saying are totally reasonable, but your tone might be coming across as condescending, abrupt, sharp, etc.

And the driving thing makes it sound like you don't really trust her judgment, and that vibe gets old fast, too.  [/quote]

This is a great reply. This person gets it. I wish we were friends and you could give me advice concerning my DH. [/quote]

No, this person doesn't get it. When my wife got back behind the wheel, she made some serious mistakes, like heading down the wrong side of a median strip into oncoming traffic. Sorry, but I can't put my kids at risk. Their lives are more important than my wife's ego.[/quote]

And yet what you are doing and how you frame the situation is not working.

No, you don't have to put the kids at risk. But you can protect them in a way that belittles your wife and shows contempt in how you think and speak of her, or not.

The former works for awhile, in some situations. But it eventually leads to a broken marriage.

Find a better way or deal with the consequences. Your choice.[/quote]

You might be right, but it's not enough to be right.  [/quote]

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