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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]You are making time for yourself by staying up till 1 am and then functioning the next day. [b]If he wants more "alone time" he needs to work it into his schedule.[/b] I have always needed about 2 hours at night after the kids go to bed, and Ive been a stay at home mom and a full time working single parent. You have to make "you" time. If its at night or early am. Your have a small child, the amount of sleep you get is not ideal for years [/quote]

But the OP makes this impossible because she makes sure the son is awake during all of her DH's awake time at home.  Unlike OP, her DH does not have the luxury of being able to sleep in until 8 or later in the morning. He has a job he needs to get to.  So yea, it's all fun that OP stays up until 1am -- but she still gets 7 hours or more sleep a night.  If her DH stayed up until then, he'd only get 5.5 hours a night -- which is not enough to be a good lawyer.

Her DH has a totally reasonable request:  That when he get home at 8pm, his DS will be in bed so DH can have 1.5 hours to himself before starting the grind again.  This is totally reasonable, and is the schedule that happens in the vast majority of homes where one spouse works long hours. Very few people want to get up at 6:30am, work a 12 hour day, and then come home to have to play with a four year old. That doesn't mean they don't love their kid. [/quote]

It's kind of wild that you think this man should not only have "free time", but is entitled to having it happen under the circumstances of his choosing - i.e. that the child is asleep at that time.  Should he be able to control the lighting too? What about the color scheme of the room where he chooses to take his free time? What about the soundtrack, want to control that too?  Don't be ridiculous!

I think it sucks that the man wants to avoid his child, but if he does, let him take his free time without insisting that the world contorts itself to suit his whims.  Let him go and lock himself up in the room, or go to the gym, or whatever.

And my 3-year old goes to bed at 8.30 pm, which works for her and the rest of the family. Maybe OP's DH is like that woman from Nanny's Diaries who insisted that her child must not nap during the day so he goes to bed early and STOP INCONVENIENCING everyone. [/quote]

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