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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]So because I chose to stay at home and take care of my husband and kids, YOU DON'T RESPECT ME?  UNBELIEVABLE!

BTW plenty of working class men work very hard & are willing & able to take care of their families (and respect their stay at home wives.)

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SAHM here, but is this really that unbelievable?  Do you feel like you get the same level of respect?

It’s all fine with me.  A lot of people are good SAHMs, and it really isn’t that difficult.  So it doesn’t come with a ton of respect.  But I was a child psychiatrist in a previous life, and it is pretty obvious that if you are a person without mental illness or sadistic tendencies, and being at home doesn’t plunge you into abject poverty, then it is best for children to have a parent at home taking care of them.  So I take the hit on the respect I get from strangers.    [/quote]

My child psychologist father I think felt this way as well and I had an amazing SAHM. I had an idealic childhood, but where does the cycle end, you know? I think my mother does have regrets about giving up career, probably her only regret in life with successful and happy kids and a great marriage. It worked out well for them, but they were lucky. And my SAHM is so, SO proud of our professional accomplishments. She probably feels like she gets to live vicariously through us and the development of our careers since it was something she never had. To make her proud and her sacrifices 'worth it" I will always, always work. [/quote]

I guess it ends when your kids grow up.  I am all for women staying at home as long as it makes them happy.  But I don't understand why your mother didn't go back to work after you all were out of the house if it was such a huge regret.  
[b]I know a lot of women in my profession who took 15-20 years working very PT following medical school/residency, raised their children, then came back in their late forties [/b]and plan to work until they die.  I also know a few who didn't adjust to returning to work well, but in my professional opinion, those ladies were cuckoo to begin with.  
Is your dad still working?

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NP
Re-entering your professional career after 20 years of leave, you will most probably have to start training all over again at the very bottom. 
Curious- which specialities are your MD friends in?[/quote]

Child psychiatry.  [/quote]

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