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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I am pp who replied on first page that you say thanks, what a nice thing and go with the flow. I can't believe this has evolved into some ethnic dispute. I am from Eastern Europe and my family does something very similar, sure not with DH's childhood friends, as he is American, but they will have me visit and have family visit us non stop and throw a party maybe. I honestly wish they would just make it into one big party rather than non stop parade, so I know why I said to just be positive. My DH's family will do the same, CO family, non stop and a party and dinners, also with mostly friends and family. This is clearly a custom in many part of US and parts of the world. So, yes, I understand what a hassle it is, but hey, everything is better with a smile and a nice attitude.[/quote]

Of course women are supposed to smile and have a nice attitude. Lol. That’s what we’ve been doing for centuries, so why stop now?[/quote]

Whatever, nowhere did I suggest that male children and ILS shouldn't do the same. And they do.[/quote]

Perhaps you didn’t read OP’s post. Her DH is too busy to attend his family’s party. [/quote]

I read her OP. My comment goes that in many countries custom is done for male and female children. She choose to go, right? Meaning, they must have somewhat decent relationship. If he was going, he would attend the party, and if they were visiting her parents and her parents threw the party, and he was going and would go to the party even without her most likely. A lot of rather dense people here. Is there a point in our society or any society that we just become engulfed in out own desires and to heck with the world? I am really tired of Christmas dinners and presents, as I am sure many parents are, do we just all stop doing holidays because we don't feel like it? Do we stop celebrating our kids' birthdays even though we have done it for years and it is a custom? Do we always put our own needs above needs of our families and friends? Do you? Do you put your needs above your kids' needs all the time? Sure, here and there, but quite frankly this is one party for a couple of hours. She is not forced to attend a 10 day wedding of people she doesn't know at all. I had to attend a 4th of July party in a small town where I didn't know, at the time, any of DH's cousins and family, none. Was a weird Eastern European embraced by extended family? Heck no. But it was just a few hours. I grew to like DH's grandparents so much, and they embraced me later. My advice to all people is that if your first reaction to something is negative, stop before you refuse it in that moment. Then think of something positive and reevaluate.  I honestly can't believe that you are having me, an Eastern European, telling you this. We are world known for our negativity, often rudeness and just plain lack of manners. I mean, if that isn't just sad, I don't know what is.[/quote]

Wow, just so you know, no one read that rant.[/quote]

Well you did because you replied.[/quote]

You can actually reply without reading the previous post. I certainly didn't read that thesis.[/quote]

It was pretty much inapplicable to the facts of OP’s post anyway. [/quote]

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