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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Some (white) folks on DCUM are really truly awful.

If a Black or brown kid doesn't do well, it is because their parents "don't value education."

But if a first generation immigrant kid of color does well, it is because her dad volunteers at the school too much.

My G-d. [/quote]

You have to value education just the right amount and just the right way. [/quote]
It's the "American way is the only way" mentality.

That father *clearly* values education and wants what he thinks is best for his kid. He is willing to put that effort into it. Doesn't matter if he's an immigrant or not.   If most American parents could put half the amount of effort into their kids' education as this father does, I bet kids would be doing a lot better in school.

I am not saying every parent should be like that father, but we need more parents who care about their kids' education, not less, and mocking such a parent is not helpful.

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Okay, but do you really think that degree of micromanaging a kid's *elementary school* career is healthy? My kid got into the CES without any of that. She was a naturally brilliant kid, whom everyone recognized as an outlier, and who from second grade sought out her own supplementary materials. All I did was take her to the library and let her pick what she wanted. She did the rest on her own, as it should be.
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So did my kid.  No prep at all in terms of the test. Like I said, I don't think we should all be like that parent, but if most parents could put in even half the effort that father does, the state of our education be a whole lot better.

I would rather have that father in my DC's class than a parent who doesn't care, never volunteers even when they could.  We have  plenty of those.  We need more of the other kind.[/quote]

Of course, but there is a healthy middle ground. I was a college prep counselor the summer after I graduated from college, and I'll never forgot my Asian student who at age 17 repeatedly said she'd either have to kill herself or run away from home if she didn't get into Harvard. Her parents micromanaged her academic career from the time she was  a small child, too. I understand the desire to supplement 2.0 to a point, but there is a ruthless undercurrent to these "get the child into CES at all costs" parents. I was happily ignorant of this when DC was invited to a CES, but I became very aware of it during the MS magnet process and did find it sad and unhealthy. [/quote]

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