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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I think you are getting crap advice on this thread.  YOU are the one who is a single parent; YOU are the one who is missing your husband; THEY are the ones who should be calling you asking if you need anything or how they can help.  Between kids, the kids schedules, the house, the dogs, my job, and keeping my children stable and secure with their father gone, I, personally, could not handle one more person asking me to do one more thing.

Your in-laws are grown ups with far less on their plate.  They should step up and ask you what you need and how they can help you.  They should do the calling and make sure you know that this is now their responsibility.  My parents do and so do my in-laws.  [/quote]

But what the in-laws [i]should[/i] be doing doesn't matter.  They've shown they are not the type to do these things so OP needs to be the one who steps up and engages them until the in-laws feel more comfortable communicating their wants and needs more directly.

OP it seems like the problem between you and your in-laws is communication.  You all seem to walk on egg shells around each other with the "wish they were here, well they can be" type responses instead of being direct and making concrete plans.

If you want to repair things with your in-laws, you need to take the lead.  Hopefully the dynamic between you will change with more coexistence and they will become more comfortable with you and you with them, and you will feel less burdened. [/quote]

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