Reply to When did you know you were ready to have kids?

Forum Index » Family Relationships

Reply to "When did you know you were ready to have kids?"

Subject:

Emoticons





More smilies

Text Color: Font: Close Marks

[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]As an adoption social worker I HATE when people say "we'll just adopt!" as if that's just something you can take for granted. Adopting today is nothing like when your parents adopted you. For one...abortions are much more common these days. And international regulations have changed wildly. Please do not be under the impression that there are just thousands of babies waiting around for some loving family to come along and adopt them.

We have clients 8 years younger than you that have been waiting for 3+ years.

Another thing to think about, since you mentioned you worried about your kids being "normal": if you want to adopt, you are going to have to go into the process with NO idea what this baby has been through during pregnancy. We recommend to pretty much everyone that they designate themselves as open to drinking/smoking during pregnancy, and many go a step further because...they're desperate for a baby. And that's just what the birth mother admits.

Adoption is not some Willy Nilly backup plan you can have in the back of your mind and assume it will be an option for you[/quote]

+1[/quote]

Yes! Thank you! [/quote]

Arent chances of abuse during pregnancy lower in international adoptions? Because other cultures eg. S Korea dont have substance use problems?
[/quote]

I am not PP ftr. But it is my understand that for adoptions from Korea, there is both a strict maximum BMI requirement AND a mental health exclusion: if you've EVER sought treatment for anxiety, depression, etc., you're out. My friend was honest about taking Xanax for flights, and she couldn't adopt a Korean baby (despite being Korean herself). I'm also not sure that it's true that there aren't drinking and substance abuse issues in Korea...
Regardless, I do know the international adoption field has changed a LOT. It is much more difficult and time-consuming to adopt internationally than it once was [/quote]

Options

	Disable HTML in this message
	Disable BB Code in this message
	Disable smilies in this message

Review message

Search Recent Topics Hottest Topics