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[quote=Anonymous]It's been my experience that if an adoption was closed, it means the birth parents (specifically the mother) want no contact ever. Closed usually means they are hiding it or it was so painful that they want to pretend it never happened. My best friend did a closed adoption after a rape. She wanted an abortion but her parents wouldn't consent as she was under 18. She's now 35 and the baby will be 18 this fall. She's pretty much been in therapy since after she gave birth. The child contacting her somehow from out of the blue is her biggest fear. Her husband knows about her rape and that she gave a baby up for adoption, but her kids with him don't and his family doesn't. Her extended family doesn't know and she's not even 100% sure her younger sister (who was 11 at the time) realized that when she went away to stay with relatives for the summer and fall, it wasn't to help the relative after surgery but to hide her pregnancy. [/quote]
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