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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]HI.  I am feeling particularly sad today that I am living here and so tired of the pace here.  The running to work, the running the kid to activities, the constant competition...   You see, I'm a midwesterner who grew up with a third of the traffic of this place.  We never struggled to find parking or had to wait in line to do things.  [b]I often feel that people here look at me as if I am crazy when I express how tired I am of this stress here and the rude people who are always in a hurry..running, running everywhere[/b].   To me, life was just easier.  I am a slower moving person.  I don't thrive on stress, or being super planned or being first or having my kid be a super over achiever.  I just want her to be happy and healthy.

I cannot get out of here and am stuck.  We both need to continue working to pay the bills and to fund our retirement and our jobs are based here.  Husband is a New Yawker who doesn't know what it is like to grow up in a slower environment.

We are stuck here because his business is based here.

I love him dearly but want to MOVE and I can't.

Just looking for like minded folks to gripe with today.  I need to know I am not alone.

Sorry for the bitching!

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Hey PP-I feel your pain 100%. I have posted several messages similar to yours on DCUM and reddit and am met with a hostile response generally, so I wanted to reach out and say that there is someone out there sharing your feelings. 
I've been here a little over 6 years and my wife has been here for 11, and I've seen the ways the DC lifestyle and pace has changed her, especially when we go back home (South).
Like you, I grew up with very little traffic or urban competition or any of the hustle that I feel every day around here.

When I moved here from FL years ago, I thought that I would adjust and this was just a temporary cultural shock....but the feeling of being out of place with all these people elbowing me out of the way has yet to leave me.

Honestly, I don't know why/how so many younger people with young families "love it" here so gd much. I really cant relate, honestly. They must have more comfortable circumstances than ours....

I sat down with DW a few years back and laid it out for her: if we were going to have a kid (which we did), there was no way I'm raising him/her in DC. We live in a "developing neighborhood" in NE DC and there is very little grass, space, or even kids around for him to play with. I gave her a list of places we'd both talked a bit about previously, and told her that we need to be looking toward the future starting now. I also let her know plainly that I was VERY unhappy in DC. She told me she wanted a year or two to "say goodbye" to the place she feels so attached to, and I compromised on that in order to gain more experience and stability in my current job.

That was three years ago, and I think we are getting close this week to a new job offer back home. DC lovers, I know, "don't let the door hit me on my way out", but still....that initial conversation opened her eyes to my truth, my reality.

I think you should talk with your husband and have a frank discussion about the direction of your lives together and where you BOTH want to be. Just because his business is based in DC doesn't necessarily mean you guys have to live here, right? 
I am sure your DH loves and respects you, and would want to know your feelings on this if he doesn't already.

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